Friday, September 19, 2014

Your Tongue Can Be A Snare To Your Soul.

It was a scenario that had happened plenty of times before. 

I felt hurt, my husband felt disrespected and we were fighting. 

Correction. I was fighting, yelling to be precise while my husband was attempting to have a calm conversation with me. 

I was too proud to soften my voice or stop the flow of things that were on my mind. I wasn't feeling heard, so I got louder and louder. My words got sharper and sharper

Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. 

Proverbs 16:18

I said some terrible, untrue things. All while my husband sat there calmly taking it. How ashamed I felt after, how ashamed I feel now just thinking of it. 

I was a fool. 

Growing up, I never truly learned how to discuss my issues or calmly talk about my feelings especially when I didn't feel like anyone was hearing me. My feelings controlled my words and my actions, which is never good or reliable. This is something that God is helping and teaching me now, through my marriage. 

Have you ever felt like God focuses on one thing at a time to teach you? 
Where you get verses, readings, blog posts, music, and sermons all on the exact thing you need to work on, all within the time that you realize that you need to work on it? 

Thats God's incredible power showing through. He orchestrates our lives, and works in us on one thing before moving on to the next refining thing. How amazing is that?! 

And that is exactly what I have seen him do in my life for the past year. As well as right now in the Esther Study. 

This week we have been focusing on Chapter 3 of Esther where Mordecai refuses to bow down to Haman, and how Hamans pride causes him to seek revenge on not just Mordecai but the entire Jewish people. Haman goes to King Xerxes and uses his words by twisting them, lying and offering just what Xerxes needed to hear to allow this plan of destruction to be set in motion. 

Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit. 

Psalms 52:2

Like Haman, the lack of self control with my tongue caused more harm than good in my marriage, and struck my husband like a knife. I hurt him when I should have protected him, and controlling my tongue is now something I am learning through God's amazing grace and my husbands wonderful ability to forgive and love me through it all.

When words are many, transgression is not lacking,
but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.

Proverbs 10:19

A friend in my Bible Study this week posted this blog post, Jesus Cares About Your Words by J.A Medders, in our group. It goes through all of the verses in the Bible of controlling our speech, it is a real wake up call to take control of your words because God commands us to and because your tongue can be a snare to your soul.

A fool's mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a whisper are like delicious morsels; the go down to the inner parts of the body."
Proverbs 18: 6-8

Esther Study:
Chapter 1 - God is Working Even When You Can't See It 
Chapter 2 - The Lesson In Waiting

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  1. Don't you love it when God gets down to your level, and reminds you gently, in five different ways that He's talking to YOU and you need to PAY ATTENTION?! He uses sermons, songs, friends, devotionals, and of course, the Bible to show us what needs some adjusting in our lives. I, too, have to watch my sharp tongue. Thank you for this wonderful post!

    1. I definitely do love it when God does that! It seems to be happening a lot this year for me! Its funny, when you allow God to change you, He makes sure you know!

  2. Thank you for this. I have too many of these moments with my husband, and my kids. Somehow the most awful things can slip out.
    Going to check out the other links you shared. Thanks so much!

    1. I am so glad I was able to share what God has been placing on my heart this week with you. It is such a bad habit for me to break, but just reading all of the scripture on it is enough for me to take a hard look at myself. This was a very humbling post to write! Thank you for reading!

  3. so true. I have found myself in the same situation so many times! I love when we can hear God talking to us!! :)

    1. Me too! Its so wonderful how he really does interact with us when we are listening!


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