There's a tough road that some women walk. A road that has them in the valley on a daily basis. If they do or say anything contrary to the Christian walk it could mean pushing their closest loved one away from God.
It is the long and weary road of being Unequally Yoked.
If you grew up as a Christian, you knew that it is commanded to marry a believer. But what about the women who came to Christ after they were married? What about the ones who are unequally yoked?
Being unequally yoked can be lonely and exhausting, including hardships that many others cannot even fathom.
But Dear friends who are married to unbelievers,
you are not alone and your situation is a blessing from the Lord.
Yes, I too am married to someone who doesn't believe. I am in the trenches with you, attempting to bring Christ's love to the man I hold so dear.
Before my husband and I were married, I was not a follower of Christ. Six months into our marriage, God placed it on my heart to truly give my life to him. Little did I know the havoc it would reap on my marriage.
The Devil doesn't care about your marriage until you choose to follow Christ, then it's like placing a large red target on your back.
Satan attacked my thoughts, placing things in my mind that were not of God. Why do I always have to sit alone at church? Why can't I have a husband like (insert friends from church name here.) If only I had married a follower of Christ. I wish I never married him because it would be easier if I was with a believer.
Trust me, the words that came out of my mouth because of these thoughts were not loving or an example of the love of Christ. It wasn't until this year that Christ has opened my eyes to the blessings of being unequally yoked.
1. Being Unequally Yoked is a blessing because it strengthens your foundation in Christ. I have to defend my faith a few times a month to my husband. Nothing strengthens your faith more than having to defend it because if you have to defend it, you have to know what you are talking about.
But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.
2. Being Unequally Yoked is a blessing because you are forced give everything to Christ. By becoming a Christian you have to place all of your trust, worries, your husband, everything into Christ's hands. You also have to be willing to loose everything for Christ. Our husbands could say, you are not who I married I am leaving, but we must trust God.
In the same way, those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples.
3. Being Unequally Yoked is a blessing because God uses it to refine our character to be like Christ. Christ loves us regardless of how we treat him and this is how he commands us to love our unbelieving spouses and neighbors. (1 Corinthians 13:4-13). God is teaching us how to truly love through being married to an unbeliever. Because it is not through our words that will convince them, but through our actions of being truly changed.
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.
1 Peter 3:1
4. Being Unequally Yoked is a blessing because God does not make mistakes. God has given you this path and specifically your husband because he has a plan for you and your husbands life. He wants to change you, help you grow in Christ, and to try to bring your husband closer to God. What better way to do that than through the closest most important woman in his life?
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
If we stop looking at our marriages as thorns in our sides and start seeing it as a blessing than we can start showing our husbands the love of Christ that they so desperately need. Our actions are going to be the only Bible they read. So ladies, lets give our husbands to Christ and start focusing on showing them Christ's love.