Turquoise tank: Faded Glory from Walmart
White tank: Xhilaration from Walmart,
Sewed the straps so it would wear higher under my tanks
Skirt: B Jewel From Marshalls
Necklace: Gift from Claires
My desire throughout high school was to fit in, and attempt to be "popular". I was most definitely a follower and didn't have any idea what it was to be feminine or modest. So I would wear jeans, a t-shirt and flip flops or on the rare occasion a mini skirt which was the "hot" thing to wear.
I had accepted Christ into my heart at 7 but I thought that meant to be able to do whatever I wanted and just ask for forgiveness.
I was following the "popular" crowd by demanding guys attention via lack of clothes and I was not focused on pleasing God or glorifying him. I was more focused on trying to get any guys attention, which would not have possible by wearing skirts daily and sticking out like a sore thumb. I did not want to be considered a "Bible Thumper", no way! High school was hard enough, or so I thought.
The fact is I didn't have the proper foundation with my relationship with God to want to change for him. I should have been pointing to Gods glory instead of seeking all of the attention for my self and my body as I grew up believing. However, when I rededicated myself to Christ a year ago I said yes to allowing Christ to change my heart.
This past January, God started placing the desire to wear skirts on my heart. But when he did, there was no mistaking what his desire for my life was, I was to dress more modestly. This was probably one of the toughest things for him to ask me to do, I have worn tight jeans all of my life and had thought that I was dressing modestly.
What I didn't realize was that I have never truly known what modesty was until I started researching it.
Modesty is the act of not calling attention to your self whether its your dress or your attitude. And in my case it was a mixture of both. I craved the attention and loved it but my actions, words and dress should have been pointing to God.
I searched scripture and found that there was not much on the topic but what there was insisted on modesty.
In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing.
1 Timothy 2:9
This scripture is so vague when it talks about modesty that I really didn't know where to start, since I thought I was being modest. So I did what anyone else would have done, I googled modesty. I fell across this video The Naked Truth About Modesty, if you have the time I truly recommend watching it.
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After seeing that, as well as Jessica Rey's The Evolution of the Swim Suit , I desired even more to wear skirts and dresses. I was nervous about it at first and really had none to wear! So my mom and I went shopping for a basic start and now I have worn a skirt or dress pretty much daily for the past 3 months.
With it being summer and having a toddler I have worn long shorts or capri's only a handful of times due to the activities we have done but other than that I wear a skirt every day. I have really enjoyed how it has made me feel!
The Benefits I Receive By Wearing Skirts:
- I am more confident about myself
- I have started to love my body the way it is and not obsessing about it being "perfect"
- I feel feminine, and beautiful.
- I have more confidence in mixing different fashions, hair styles and adding accessories for the first time.
- I feel good about knowing that what I wear doesn't cause other men to stumble.
- And most importantly, it feels great protecting and keeping my body only for my husband!
Now, I know this subject is a hot topic among woman and it truly boils down to this: God calls us to be modest in our dress as well as our actions, however, that can mean wearing skirts to one woman and wearing modest tops and jeans to another.
God will look at our hearts not our dress.
I was called to wear skirts and dresses, God placed that desire in my heart and I was obedient. That is Gods plan for my life, and God has a completely different plan for everyone of his daughters so if you do not have the desire to do that, its OK!
Dressing modestly in skirts and dresses, is my outward sign of my inner change.
My heart has been changed for Christ, and what I wear reflects that.