tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post2337470099747363371..comments2023-05-10T05:47:17.564-04:00Comments on Faith In Every Day | Glorifying God in Everything We Do, Every Day. : Comparisons Part 3: When Your Life Sequence Doesn't Match Societies Expectations. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00804317198109800669noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-47932196441977303652014-12-01T12:16:13.947-05:002014-12-01T12:16:13.947-05:00I agree. It's all about the marriage and not t...I agree. It's all about the marriage and not that day. A bunch of little things kept going wrong the day of our wedding (lost shoes, messed up music and photography, etc), and one of our friends was amazed that it didn't bother me or make me all anxious that day... but it didn't because I knew I was marrying my best friend and that was the important part. I look back at that day and don't see the mishaps or even remember the flowers or cake. Honestly, I don't even remember most of the words I said. Just that I was overwhelmed by emotion knowing God had led me down a broken road straight to my soul mate. Concentrate on how God's blessed you and how He is working His Word into your marriage. A wedding is a nice time to celebrate that, but everything else is details and will fade with time. Your relationship in Christ and with each other is what is paramount. Our pictures from that day don't show all the mishaps, but they show love. I hate that we have grown to compare everything rather than to celebrate each others joys. I hope we can learn to celebrate God's blessings together and like a wedding picture- focus on the good. Lovely post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398657042411057836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-31258655428680861262014-11-29T19:52:17.946-05:002014-11-29T19:52:17.946-05:00The big event is the marriage itself not the weddi...The big event is the marriage itself not the wedding. If you are happily married to the man you love then you are blessed. Yes, I too have experienced some of those feelings you are going through but we have to keep our eyes on God and not on the things of this world. Who knows, your big wedding may very well present itself in the future. An anniversary celebration maybe?<br />Be blessed!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081490938276916585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-68742871997914246582014-11-28T12:21:34.908-05:002014-11-28T12:21:34.908-05:00I just told my 20 year old daughter the other day ...I just told my 20 year old daughter the other day that the marriage is far more important than the wedding. Comparison is a huge thing in our society and facebook and pinterest tend to glamorize things in people's lives when really their lives are quite normal. thanks for a thoughtful post.Amy Hageruphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12152239583053192561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-32990690866610804852014-11-26T21:59:39.855-05:002014-11-26T21:59:39.855-05:00Our expectations are always so high. And, Social m...Our expectations are always so high. And, Social media gives am extra pressure when you are not following the traditional path. Comparing won't really help anyone, as you never know what the others are going through.Lisa RIoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02573338090429970440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-48533604745329552242014-11-25T21:04:56.993-05:002014-11-25T21:04:56.993-05:00I guess it all depends where you live:) for instan...I guess it all depends where you live:) for instance, in French part of Canada, people would date for around a year, then decide to move in together, than decide to have a baby, buy a house, have that baby, and maybe think about wedding. Or move in together, get engaged, buy a house than have a baby and then get married. Or move in together, get married, have a baby and never buy a house :). Same in Europe. But as you say, in the end it's not about the others and their expectations, but about you :). Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398880432946721920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-51812943597425710012014-11-25T06:27:13.909-05:002014-11-25T06:27:13.909-05:00God has blessed me with a wonderful family and my ...God has blessed me with a wonderful family and my health and too many other things to list here! #blogitforwardLone Carpenterhttp://www.the-lone-carpenter.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-79634368003975595722014-11-25T03:22:53.741-05:002014-11-25T03:22:53.741-05:00Choosing to be single despite people pressuring yo...Choosing to be single despite people pressuring you to get married or at least date. I am so much happier now than when I have to go with the flow. I am more at peace and blessed to see that I've got friends to support me. I am sure God will send me the partner He thinks is best for me. :)Lux G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00557863683608790087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-67592312494683131462014-11-24T22:16:05.483-05:002014-11-24T22:16:05.483-05:00I don't think it really matters the size of a ...I don't think it really matters the size of a wedding or how much it costs. At the end of the day you're with the person that you're going to spend the rest of your life with. The wedding is only one day, so it's not a big deal. In my opinion. Definitely don't compare yourself to others either! <br /><br />www.Fashionabella.comFashionABellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338231687792930085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-75134274708500502052014-11-24T21:47:56.258-05:002014-11-24T21:47:56.258-05:00I'm a professional event planner so I knew ALL...I'm a professional event planner so I knew ALL about expectations when we were planning our wedding a few years ago. I wanted it to be perfect but I also forced myself to step back and realize that it's just a day, and our marriage is the important part. Even now, being married 3+ years I sometimes fall into the trap of thinking, "Oh I wish we had done this or that" but honestly, my wedding was perfect because our friends and family had a great time and I married the man I love. I wouldn't have it any other way. :)Amanda {Planning It All}http://planningitall.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-85495234752048163082014-11-24T18:00:55.554-05:002014-11-24T18:00:55.554-05:00My fiance proposed via text message. The wedding ...My fiance proposed via text message. The wedding we're planning will be small and budget-friendly. We already have two kids together. But we love each other, so we aren't worried about societal norms :)Jamie Knupphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12754020883705114073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-22459782160164446922014-11-24T16:32:26.856-05:002014-11-24T16:32:26.856-05:00There are definitely some societal pressures. But ...There are definitely some societal pressures. But one thing wedding planning has taught me is that you don't HAVE to do anything. There are so many couples who buck tradition and have lovely weddings and lovely marriages. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-40034126396222651782014-11-24T15:39:52.826-05:002014-11-24T15:39:52.826-05:00I think social media makes it harder for those who...I think social media makes it harder for those who don't follow the "traditional" path of how things should go, but we all do things in our own way and on our own time :)Danielle Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432659542347555085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-52756494280765481232014-11-24T15:36:49.105-05:002014-11-24T15:36:49.105-05:00It's so true that comparisons can seriously pu...It's so true that comparisons can seriously pull us down! It's such a shame! And as far as weddings go, even having a beautiful huge wedding doesn't save you from comparison envy! It's such a shame :-\ Hope you get your wedding! ;-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10150179121149951171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-53416595994105791332014-11-24T15:30:08.847-05:002014-11-24T15:30:08.847-05:00Expectations are hard...we chose to go to the cour...Expectations are hard...we chose to go to the court house and get married with no one there. Best decision for us.Tiffany | picsandpastrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08127378793536349814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-1143248615323692092014-11-24T13:48:50.530-05:002014-11-24T13:48:50.530-05:00You are so right, Tara, and not only about the wed...You are so right, Tara, and not only about the wedding expectations, but about expectations for what is "supposed" to happen once you're married. I have many times fallen into the trap of wishing that my husband and I had already completed the some of the young married couple milestones, as many of our friends have (e.g.., having children, buying your first home). But each person's path is their own. It's much better to live according to God's timing and expectations rather than trying to strive for things to happen in our lives that are not a part of His plan :) I really appreciated reading this post :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00261642446784731949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-63242504307013754552014-11-24T13:47:40.484-05:002014-11-24T13:47:40.484-05:00Our wedding was completely different and we stood ...Our wedding was completely different and we stood away from what people expected. Our wedding reflected who we were and become. My engagement ring was not even an engagement ring according to others but it was to me and it had more meaning than anything else. I think blocking what society expectations and focusing on what you want and are is important. Is not about pleasing others is about pleasing you and your spouse. Great post I enjoyed it very much.Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958215645757917034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-24485572646225713112014-11-24T13:47:07.074-05:002014-11-24T13:47:07.074-05:00I can relate to this post. My husband and I never ...I can relate to this post. My husband and I never did what we were "suppose" to do. I didn't have the big white wedding or engagement. We don't even wear wedding rings and we 2 different religions yet we extremely happy and we love it this way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18171579194062043211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-52643709318290804242014-11-24T12:56:52.191-05:002014-11-24T12:56:52.191-05:00Social media has definitely ramped up the "co...Social media has definitely ramped up the "comparison" game. It's easy to wish we were living the lives of others, but instead we should focus on living our own lives to the fullest.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09522607411510264121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-446432167517259912014-11-24T11:41:05.578-05:002014-11-24T11:41:05.578-05:00Thank you for being so open! You really knew the i...Thank you for being so open! You really knew the importance of the day, that is so wonderful! You are right, its all about focusing on the right things! :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00804317198109800669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975641871783295331.post-13467196244229925902014-11-24T10:22:06.074-05:002014-11-24T10:22:06.074-05:00I have felt some of those pressures as well. I was...I have felt some of those pressures as well. I wasn't a size 2 or even 8 and don't love the way I looked in our pictures. We had a nice ceremony, but we didn't have the TV version reception either. It was nice and you know what - everybody probably remembers how happy we were, and if anyone only focuses on that we made our own food and decorations, they missed the important parts. It's funny, but our table decorations actually said, "A Wedding is just a day, but a marriage is a lifetime of . . . " and each table had different things like Love, Laughter, Respect, Fun, Friendship, Forgiveness. Keep focusing on the right stuff, sister! Jennifer DeFrateshttp://heavennotharvard.comnoreply@blogger.com